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原來 lonely 的原因是這樣, Captured from www.depressed.edu.hk

寂寞(Loneliness)是甚麼？   美國賓夕法尼亞洲大學的Jeffrey Young博士，將寂寞(Loneliness)定義為： 在人際關係方面缺乏滿足，而出現的不愉快感受。(-ve) 這裡共有兩個元素 ── 「不愉快感受」 與 「人際關係缺乏滿足」因此，即使是獨自一人，是不足以構成「寂寞」的。

寂靜(Solitude)是甚麼？   獨處時特有的靜思空間，是一種自在的享受。 (+ve)

「寂寞」的種類   Jeffrey Young 博士亦將寂寞劃分為下列三種：   「突發性寂寞」(Transient Loneliness) －轉瞬即逝的寂寞 這是一種轉瞬即逝的寂寞感覺，在我們的日常生活中不時發生。這種寂寞固然不是問題，除非是你自己鑽牛角尖。 「處境性寂寞」(Situational Loneliness)－生活狀況轉變而衍生 生活狀況轉變，而令人失去一段成功、良好的關係，就會產生處境性寂寞。這些轉變包括搬遷、分手、離婚、喪偶等等。這種寂寞在老年時不免會發生。 「慢性寂寞」(Chronic Loneliness)－缺乏建立成功關係的經驗 這種情況，經常出現於缺乏建立成功關係經驗的人身上，至少這幾年沒有。通常他們在青少年時期及成年初期，都過著寂寞的生活。

資料來源： Montgomery, B. & Evans, L. (1993). (2nd ed.). You and stress. Melbourne: Viking O’Neil. Young, J., & Klosko, J.S. (1994). Reinventing your life. New York: Plume.

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本來想點首 “Lonely Christmas”, 但這首殺傷力太強, 都係唔好再發放負能量, 害人害己

Akon – Mr. lonely

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Lonely I’m Mr Lonely,
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I’m so lonely, I’m Mr. Lonely
I have nobody,
For my owwnnn
I’m so lonely,

Yo this one here goes out to all my playas out there ya kno got that one good girl whose always been there like ya
Kno took all the bullshit then one day she cant take it no more and decides to leave

I woke up in the middle of the night and I noticed my girl wasn’t by my side, coulda sworn I was dreamin, for her I was
Feenin, so I hadda take a little ride, back tracking ova these few years, tryna figure out wat I do to make it go bad, cuz
Ever since my girl left me, my whole life came crashin

I’m so lonely (so lonely),
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

Cant belive I hadda girl like you and I just let you walk right outta my life, after all I put u thru u still stuck
Around and stayed by my side, what really hurt me is I broke ur heart, baby you were a good girl and I had no right, I
Really wanna make things right, cuz without u in my life girl

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girl

Been all about the world ain’t neva met a girl that can take the things that you been through
Never thought the day would come where you would get up and run and I would be out chasing u
Cuz aint nowhere in the globe id rather be, aint noone in the globe id rather see then the girl of my dreams that made me
Be so happy but now so lonely

So lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own)

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girrll

Never thought that id be alone, I didnt hope you’d be gone this long, I jus want u to call my phone, so stop playing girl and
Come on home (come on home), baby girl I didn’t mean to shout, I want me and you to work it out, I never wished Id ever
Hurt my baby, and its drivin me crazy cuz…

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own)

I’m so lonely (so lonely)
I’m Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)
I have nobody (I have nobody)
To call my own (to call my own) girll

Lonely, so lonely
So lonely, (so lonely),
Mr. Lonely, so lonely
So lonely, so lonely, (so lonely), Mr. Lonely